update dependencies and add method serve_with_listener

[cloneyate]

datafusion-federation updated to version 0.4.11 and the tree has been broken. Update dependencies:

1. update crate "datafusion" to version 51
2. remove the directly dependent crate "arrow" and use the re-exportd one from "datafusion"
3. update crate "tonic" and "prost" to version 0.14
4. move crate "tonic-async-interceptor" to dev-dependencies used by example

Additionally, sometimes I need to bind to 127.0.0.1:0 to have a allocated port and made the port visible to the outside. Add a method "serve_with_listener" to allow user to pass in a bound TcpListener.

[hozan23]

Thanks @cloneyate