chore: update ci and pre-commit

[tlambert03]

closes #715, #714, #713, #712, #705

[codecov]

Codecov Report

✅ All modified and coverable lines are covered by tests.
✅ Project coverage is 89.26%. Comparing base (549b7af) to head (41856a8).
⚠️ Report is 1 commits behind head on main.

Additional details and impacted files

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- Coverage   89.26%   89.26%   -0.01%     
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  Files          40       40              
  Lines        4818     4815       -3     
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- Hits         4301     4298       -3     
  Misses        517      517              

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[tlambert03]

test failures are unrelated to changes here and will be addressed eslwhere